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Post by "Mysti" on Jan 17, 2007 3:44:29 GMT -5
Ok, dumb question but I need to know how to strike up a conversation with a person I don't know and ask them about their ghost.
It's hard to explain but I've been having alot of dreams about a house I lived in a LONG time ago, and it seems like they (the dreams) are trying to tell me something. But I really feel like I'm suppossed to go back to that house, there's something VERY IMPORTANT that I need to figure out or help with.
Honestly I don't even know if anyone lives there or if they'd even be open to discussing anything about the "paranormal" So does anyone have any suggestions? I thought about writing to the current resident, but even if I do I'm not sure what I should or shouldn't say..... so I'm kind of stuck, but I know I need to do something.
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Post by tt on Jan 29, 2007 16:15:45 GMT -5
I would go to the house, to contact the current resident. I would explain to them that I had lived there years ago, and just felt an urge to go visit the old place. Ask them if they would mind allowing you visit with them about your link to the house. If they are open to talking to you, that should get your foot in the doorway. If they do talk to you; somewhere in the conversation you could alude to the facts regarding anything weird you had experienced in the house, or about your recent dreams. You could say something like "Have you ever watched shows that deal with Psychics like John Edwards, or like those "Taps" Paranormal Researchers?" If they say yes, you can ask them what their feelings are regarding that subject matter. If they continue to be open to the discussion, you can ease into someof your general experiences in Ghost Hunting. And from that point just get a feel for the person and their belief systems. Take it slow, and round about. Ease into it. You don't want to freak them out. Or have them think your are Mentally Ill. My biggest dilema is approaching people too. If they are superstious, and haven't been experiencing anything in the house, that might set them to start worrying about something needlessly. Once a person is stripped of their sense of security, the feeling of being safe in your own home, it's hard to ever recover that again if you suddenly have someone say your place is haunting my dreams! Sometimes you have to just bide your time. If the place is being rented, find out who owns the property and go talk to them. Maybe they know something about the history of the place, and can answer your questions about it. Ask the neighbors around the house. Maybe some of them have been there long enough to remember when you lived there. Maybe they know things about the place that the current resident doesn't? I would caution you to always keep in mind the comfort zone of the current resident. Maybe they don't want to know, all there is to know about the place. Their comfort should come before your curiosity. That's my feelings anyway.
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Post by "Mysti" on Jan 29, 2007 17:30:59 GMT -5
Thanks TT, You kind of hit the nail right on, in the same way I was thinking about not taking away the current (if any) residents / owners comfort zone.
I never thought about using your idea about asking if they watched or were interested in the "paranormal" topics of t.v. that's really a great idea, and a good way to try and approach the subject.
As for people who might remember me, that would most likely be impossible, most all of our neighbors were elderly, with the exception of 1, and she moved away before we did. So I don't see that as an option.
But I did like your idea also about going to the house and just telling them that I had lived there before and had an urge to see the place. Maybe that will open them up and get them talking or asking questions if they by any chance are experiencing anything themselves.
If not, like you mentioned, just see what I feel and watch how receptive they are and then possibly touch the other area. Or maybe not touch it, maybe just by me going back I can calm my dreams.... maybe that is all I need (although I really don't think so, but I've been wrong before)
Here's another question, "do you think that a place that "haunted" you as a child, can call you back? (keep you in it's clutches basically)
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Post by tt on Jan 30, 2007 14:51:57 GMT -5
A coworker's wife had re-occurring dreams about an old farm house south of Cherokee. The house is about 100 yrs. old, and the first floor is built into a hillside. And has a cool old root cellar running under the hillside next to the house. ( I've been in the root cellar many years ago. It had a vaulted brick ceiling and was well made. But in the decades since then the roof has collasped, and the cellar is filled with debri. The house still stands, though ). This coworker's wife always dreamnt that on the 2nd floor in the back of the house their was a room that was also built into the hillside directly behind the house. And that in this room was a closet in the far wall. If you open the closet and check the back of it, you'll find a secret passage that lead to another secret room. My coworker had done me a huge favor once, and I wanted to pay him for helping me out. I offered him $100.00. He said he'd pass on the money if I would contact the owner of the house, and get permission for him and his wife to tour the home to see if her dreams about the house were true. So I arranged an opportunity to survey the land so to speak. The farmer didn't want anyone in the house though. But when he was out of sight the couple raced into the delapidated house, and checked out the 2nd floor rooms. Sadly for them none of the rooms were built into the hillside, as she had dreamed. That makes me wonder now, if she is continuing to have those dreams anymore. I'll have to ask him. Sometimes we dream about stuff, and redream it, and then start to create implied memories about places, that we really don't have any connection too; like my coworker's wife. But it doesn't hurt to check out these nagging questions you may have about such places. It can actually be fun sometimes. We had a blast checking out that place, and we ended up telling the farmer our reasons for being there. He said he felt like their was an alterior motive for us being their. So go have some fun, and find out what you can! Just be safe! Take someone with you! And tell us all about it when you're done!
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Post by "Mysti" on Feb 1, 2007 4:28:42 GMT -5
That's really wierd, I had a re-occuring dream for years (knocking on wood here, it's been awhile I haven't dreamt about it in almost a year)
But it was about an old farm house that sat on a hill and inside on the landing of the staircase there was a life sized portrait of a woman... but if you looked behind the portrait there was a doorway that lead to a hidden passage. (in my dream it lead to a small cemetary that sat at the bottom of the hill behind the farm house) So it's just strange to hear that someone else had dreamed of something like that. The difference is that at least your co-workers wife had seen the place in real life (my farmhouse dream is only from that, my dream)
As for the house that I've been dreaming of recently, there is a true connection to it. I lived in it when I was younger and honestly I had always tried to put it out of my mind and not think about it. Some memories are better left alone, but apparently I need to deal with them. I'm hoping that if I can go back I'll feel better about everything.
And yes I will let you know how it goes if I'm allowed to visit there. Maybe afterwards I'll share my original experience from the house so that everything will make more sense. Or maybe I'll get there and decide I'm a chicken sh*t and don't want to go back into that house (which is how I've felt all these years when ever I thought of that place)
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Post by tt on Feb 1, 2007 16:18:52 GMT -5
Makes me wonder if hidden passage ways in old houses has some significant meaning to women in general, since the 2 of you had similar dreams? I don't have a dream guide book to know what the signifcance is regarding such things in women's dreams, so perhaps you could research that and inform us all about what that means. Maybe if the house you want to visit, is delapidated pehaps you could get permission to burn it to the ground, if you have bad memories about it. Maybe that would put to rest those nagging feelings about the place? But get permission to burn it before you take that step. I don't want to have to come visit you in Prison, becuase your an arsonist! LOL!
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Post by "Mysti" on Feb 2, 2007 13:29:45 GMT -5
I've never thought about that, I should look into the dream dictionary and see if it does give any explanations about secret passageways or old farm houses...good idea TT.
As for the one now, I haven't been anywhere near it but I'm doughting it would be dilapidated, if anything it would be fixed up just because it sat in a "prominient" neighborhood where alot of historic houses sat. But I have to admit I liked your idea, and it's good to know that I'd have at least 1 visitor LOL
I guess I need to make a trip to Des Moines and just look first, then see if anyone lives there, then I can go from there. If it's empty then I'll have to see if I can find the owner, but maybe that would be good, I could take a voice recorder along if I'm allowed to go into the house, maybe I could catch something.
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